What are some ways you can disprove yourself to be a kintype that is very flexible in how it acts? Also, how can you ease yourself down from the initial excitement of finding yourself kin with something enough to look at it objectively? Thank you very much. It’s hard to find a kin blog that isn’t immediately accepting and looking to comfort. I want to question myself on this.

seriousotherkin:

Just as it’s impossible to objectively prove otherkin, it’s equally impossible to objectively disprove otherkin. That being said, there are very few things that are completely without constant, that are without a pattern. 

Finding your own pattern, your impulse reactions, your knee jerk emotional responses, and how these affect your actions, is difficult, but all in all I’d say it’s worth while. If you know your core motivations then you have more control over how you express them, which is, in my opinion, reason enough to go looking for them, even without the otherkin factor. 

When you know your pattern, you can look for how well it syncs up to that of your kintype. 

It’s the same thing as I tell everyone, I know, and I know full well how the flexibility of a kintype and of a self, can make this more complicated, but the main difference tends to be how slow going it ends up being. 
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To ease oneself down from the initial !!! of feeling as though one has the answer can be difficult. 
Having an answer to lean on gives us comfort, a sense of security, and to bring hesitation and doubt back into the fold can feel unsafe. 

The truth is, unless we stop ourselves and make sure we don’t get too attached to the idea that we have all the answers then we may fall into a pattern of ignoring conflicting information, and even into a pattern of vehemently defended blind faith. 
We can become so invested in our answer that we react with hostility if we’re asked to even just give some clarification, some detail. 
We can become hostile towards others just for their refusal to take our word as infallible. 

This is something we’ve all seen, surely, if not among otherkin then among other groups around us. People who dig in and accuse you of attacking them if you dare ask them “why?”

Knowing that there is no objective truth, and having seen blind faith and fundamentalism, has been enough for me to ease down. 
I don’t want to be that guy. 
I don’t want to be wrong, but I’d rather find out that I’m wrong than stubbornly refuse to accept the idea that I could be anything less than right. 
I’ve made my peace with doubt, I’ve made my peace with the undeniable fact that I’m probably wrong about something, if not a lot of things. 

Knowing that you can be wrong, being at peace with that fact, makes it easier to stop to think, stop to ask yourself “why?”, before that question becomes synonymous with an attack, before it becomes perceived as a personal attack.

A deep breath, and “why?” is a fantastic start to any questioning.  
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Thank you. 
I’m glad I’m able to help at all.