If you suspect that someone you know may be misunderstanding kin identity, and you want to help them in the right direction away from tumblr fluff, here’s a simple guide. 2 pointer.
DO NOT: accuse them right away of being fake. Some people are obviously just playing around with the label, to heck with that – but sometimes a new, actual kin is just dazzled and needs an advisor. You don’t have to be an elder or a greymuzzle to do this. In fact, building a reputation for reliability and knowledge and a willingness to help your community is what makes you one later on.
DO: ask them, nicely, if they could exain to you in more detail why they feel the way they do about a potential kintype. Everyone likes talking about themselves, for one thing. And just like on every other nonhuman forum since our foundations, the process of civil discussion and exchange of ideas is one of the best ways to form a solid understanding of yourself. You can also approach people and offer to share your thoughts and get feedback. Don’t be afraid of this process. Worst case scenario, you aren’t right about the kintype. Nothing bad will happen to you in that case. You will not be mocked or derided or driven away. You’ll be given a fresh start with a new perspective and a better grasp of how to understand these masses of confusing feelings. And more friends, which is pretty sweet right?
