What people say: “You can’t be kin of a non-white person if you are white!”

What it sounds like they’re saying: “It is empirically impossible for you to have had a past life or otherworldly experience in which you were a non-white person. You are now and will forever be white. Being a dog is totally possible. But it was definitely a white dog.”

What they’re probably trying to say: “I personally find it objectionable and racist that you would claim to have a past life/otherworldly experience as a non-white person.”

The truth: You can’t dictate someone else’s internal experience. If kin are not invading the spaces of POC, stop policing their internal experience.