old tumblr postsAugust 15, 2015

I have to be honest. I don’t like the phrase “system”. It makes us sound like machines.

As I understand it the term system is meant similarly to ‘star system’: A star system or stellar system is a small number of stars that…

old tumblr postsAugust 15, 2015

Can you talk more about non-fictive headmates, specifically how to distinguish them from fictives? Because I have a headmate who has refused to identify herself for the longest time. Also, is it possible to turn an imaginary friend from one’s childhood into a headmate?

A non-fictive headmate is pretty simple anon ^^ If you have a headmate and you don’t immediately know what canon/source they are from, then they…

old tumblr postsAugust 15, 2015

Not sure if you got this question yet, but have you heard of the fictional other coping mechanism? I kno peeps who were “copingkin” and after reading your posts on the subject, realized that the concept of a fictional other was a better coping mech. It’s basically like..I guess an internal RP? A fictional character you take on as a “significant other”. You KNOW it isn’t real, but when you’re lonely or depressed you kind of dwell on that idealized relationship? Hard to describe. Helped me a lot.

Anon, I have a few thoughts on this subject, so I hope you’ll pardon me if I ramble a bit. My first reaction is that…

old tumblr postsAugust 15, 2015

What’s going on if there’s a different personality in my mind that I can talk to and that shares my memories, and he identifies with the name/pronouns of a fictional character, but the two of us are also kin for different fictional characters simultaneously? Do I have DID and am fictionkin, or am I just fictionkin for all three characters and I like talking to myself? I feel like a liar, even though I’m probably not…

This is definitely a question I can answer! Lets break this down! there’s a different personality in my mind that I can talk to and…

old tumblr postsAugust 10, 2015

Okay, this is going to sound like a troll question, but… do you think it’s possible for a kin to, say, soulbond with themselves from another reality? Like, if you’re Ken, could you soulbond with Ken from a slightly different timeline? Have you ever heard of this happening?

I have never personally heard of this happening, however, there is no reason it could not. It sounds like a very weird experience! Anyone who…

old tumblr postsJuly 25, 2015

Do you think soulbonds are “real” if they don’t accurately reflect all traits of their personality or memories etc from their canon? (Note: “real” isn’t the word I want to use (it’s kinda rude) but I can’t come up with a better word for this question. I’m not trying to be rude, slap me if I am.)

I don’t think this is a rude question. 🙂 The answer is yes. I consider all soulbonds ‘real’ for lack of a better word, regardless of…

old tumblr postsJuly 24, 2015

Can you explain the difference between a soulbond and a headmate? I’m really not understanding and I need to because of my situation.

The short answer is a soulbond is a type, or subset of, headmate. A headmate is any fully realized independent person/entity that shares mental space…

old tumblr postsJuly 3, 2015

for me (not the same anon), i’m not down with your whole “or you would have two individual headmates” definition because my headmates are not me so they wouldn’t be my past lives or whatever. even if i had a headmate who was the same person i’m ficitonkin of, that headmate would be different and not me. ymmv of course.

No, I completely agree with this. I worded the previous answer generously to allow for someone who hadn’t considered the possibility that the people they…

old tumblr postsJune 5, 2015

Hi so I have two questions if you don’t mind! Is it normal to have be fickin and also have fictives? Also, is it considered.. weird/etc for all your kin/fictives to come from just one place? I’ve only recently started coming to terms with being fickin and I’ve suddenly met with two fictives as well, and my 3 kin and fictives all ‘originate’ from one work of fiction. I hope I worded that understandably and thanks :)

Your question was worded just fine. 🙂 It is absolutely common (I won’t say ‘normal’) to be a fictionkin who has headmates, whether they are fictive…

old tumblr postsMay 9, 2015

can being kin be used as a kind of support for anxiety/stress/depression? Sorry if this is rude in any way, I’m really new to this ;;

You can use a character’s strength as a way to support you mentally, but this is not what being fictionkin is. I would call this…