old tumblr postsJuly 31, 2016

Any advice for people telling me I’m a fake system? If I have multiples, fictives and tulpas all in my head who are separate from me… that makes me a real system right? Or is that not how it works?

My advice for anyone being told they’re a ‘fake system’ is to ignore it. You and your headmates know if you’re real or not.

old tumblr postsMarch 31, 2016

(anon who asked about headmates & multiplicity) thank you so much!! and btw (oops) what is a median system? :o

My pleasure. A median is thought to be by some the midpoint between singlet and multiple. There are other ‘people’ sharing headspace but they are all…

old tumblr postsFebruary 26, 2016

As a soulbonder just wanted to say thanks to you and hamiltoes for being so reasonable and informed!

@hamiltoes Thanks anon! as a soulbonder myself, its definitely a subject that’s important to me.

old tumblr postsFebruary 22, 2016

Any information about median systems?

Medians, at least when I last heard the term, are people who don’t comfortable fit either as multiples or singlets. Being median is a sort…

old tumblr postsFebruary 22, 2016

Actually some people with DID think as their alter as people, especially the ones against integration, since they developed normally since childhood they think it’s a personality of their own. Some trauma based systems use the language of healthy multiplicity too.

Absolutely true. I was much more free about mixing my terminology until lately when I have been hearing from DID systems who want to keep…

old tumblr postsFebruary 22, 2016

hello! i’ve checked your faq but i’m so new and v. confused, so i thought i’d just ask. i understand what the term headmate is used for in regards to this community, but i am confused if its supposed to be completely different from what a person with dissociative identity disorder means when talking about their headmates, or if they mean the same and meant for people w DID but alters that are similar to fic characters? sometimes some say anyone can develop headmates but thats not how DID works?

First of all, just to clear things up, headmates have nothing to do with fictionkin or otherkin. Headmate as a term came about to describe…

old tumblr postsFebruary 20, 2016

I am in a predicament and need an opinion. so i’m a soulbonder and recently tried tulpamancing and I made a tulpa. Fast-foreward some and I’m trying to call out to a soulbond of mine. The soulbond and tulpa are both there and then they? fuse? or something. I’m not sure. anyways, so they become one person and the tulpa/soulbond is in a situation where they act in a way that feels like simultaneous reincarnation, being both living the life of the soulbond in their world and being in my 1/2

2/2 headspace at the same time. It’s really weird and I want to make sure this isn’t something that just happens or that has a…

old tumblr postsFebruary 14, 2016

Kin vs fictive reminder

‘Kin’ is not a word for system member, fictive, soulbond, alter, or headmate. If you say your ‘kin’ or ‘kins’ to mean separate people from…

old tumblr postsJanuary 6, 2016

Thank you for your reply, I understand and it’s a good point but I think that while classifications are good to make things clear dividing a small community with close experiences in two against the wishes of some of them is not ideal. I also think the otherkin community wants only people who believe it’s an spiritual thing lately, I mean between coping kin and people who believe being kin is psychological or anything not spiritual there isn’t such a big diference and both tend to be excluded.

I think its important to share space- but I also think its important to have dedicated spaces to both. We have similar experiences, and a…

old tumblr postsJanuary 6, 2016

why don’t you try to start a new terminology? you’re a pretty popular blogger i think you could do it.

I’m a pretty popular fictionkin blogger, yes, but not so much a popular multiple blogger. I almost never talk about my experiences as a multiple,…