saying all this stuff about polykin and implying people are “hoarding” kintypes are choosing who theyre kin with
Some people do ‘hoard’ kintypes. Not every kin you meet is going to be perfectly legitimate and well meaning. Which doesn’t mean that you should question or disbelieve people on the basis of how many kintypes they have, just that it does happen. (see, yanderebitchclub)
Additionally, I didn’t say anything about people with large numbers of kintypes choosing them. I said some of them might be mistaken because:
The first reason is that they are mistaking any deep emotional feelings, or feelings of identifying with a character, for that character being a kintype. Not every character you share features or life experience, or feels with is a kintype. Some of his supposed kintypes might be synpaths, hearttypes (as in fictionhearted), or soulbonds. They might even just be characters he likes a lot.
The other reason that people gather a lot of kintypes is because none of them EXACTLY fit their real kintype/kinself and they are sort of building a mental chimera of their true self out of the ‘parts’ of other characters that they feel have familiar traits or experiences. Take a look at his kintypes, are there a lot of things they have in common? Do they seem to form a spectrum, or a couple spectrum of similar characters? Does your S/O identify with one element of a particular character but not the rest of that character? If so,he may be taking the ‘Goldilocks’ approach to being kin, trying each bowl to find one that fits just right, without yet finding one that does.
http://fromfiction.tumblr.com/post/143463534662/hey-i-have-a-question-im-kinda-scared-to-ask
And again, I didn’t at any time say all people with large number of kintypes are illegitimate. Don’t put words in my mouth.
idk why anyone is fussing about this (bluh bluh of course I do), it’s common sense.
The very first fictionkin I met way back when did this hoarding power-play with each other. Not to say it’s common, but it happens. And it makes people like me or my partner who actually are an uncommon number of things get really put on the spot to sort of prove ourselves, or meet certain standards. It’s frustrating enough being in polykin hell, lol, let alone having people playing games with the concept and giving us a bad rep because they’re unwilling to ask themselves tough questions.
