is it normal to fear abusive actions that happened to you in a past life yet havent happened to you in this life? i dont want to come off as having experienced physically abusive stuff that hasnt “actually happened” buuuut

Its totally normal to fear things from your past life that caused you fear, pain, upset, etc. Its normal and okay for these traumatic events to influence you in this life. Goodness knows they effect me. 

To avoid ‘coming off as if you’ve experienced 

physically abusive stuff that hasnt “actually happened"” what you should do is when not discussing it in the kin community and in context of being kin, call it a phobia. Its perfectly acceptable to have unexplained phobias of abuse, and then you don’t need to get into explaining to people your past lives, and nobody will complain that you are misusing any medical/psychological terminology.