i’d also like to point out that stating that something is a point of debate in no way makes judgements as to either side of the debate’s support or legitimacy, it’s simply a statement of fact.” (link)
The problem is that stating that it is a ‘point of debate’ does legitimize both sides of the ‘argument’.
Saying that whether or not you can be kin of someone of a different age is up for debate is like saying that whether or not the earth is a sphere vs flat is up for debate.
Are there some people who claim the earth is flat? Yes, but they are a tiny minority and are so obviously wrong that giving their opinion any serious discussion makes it a complete farce.
The people who claim that being kin of someone a different age is ‘problematic’ are so few in number, so far outside of the actual kin community, and so completely wrong about what being kin is, that there is no point in acknowledging them.
All acknowledging them does is make it seem like they have a valid argument when they don’t. People outside the community have no idea that the people making these claims are not credible members of the community. Giving their ideas space with actual kin beliefs and arguments confuses both outsiders and newcomers, and perpetuates their arguments for another cycle of completely unnecessary debate.
