I feel kinda bad, like I might be using a soulbond. They don’t seem to be active (or I can’t hear them idk) in anything other than when I’m upset, when they come over and cuddle up and tell me they love me. It’s nice, but it feels wrong and I want to be able to talk to them more. On the other hand it feels like they take over my body, at least partially, when I go outside the house, but it doesn’t feel like communicating. How can I reach out and talk and listen better?

First of all, try not to feel bad. ^^ For one thing, communication with bonds isn’t always easy at first.

For another thing, soulbonds often link up with soulbonders specifically in order to help emotionally support them in some way. If your bond is most active when you are upset, it is likely that that is what they are most there “for”. Bonds have an emotional connection with their bonders, and many are protective advice givers.

That said there are definitely ways that you can try to connect more regularly with your bond outside of times of crisis.

One thing to keep in mind is that not all bonds ‘speak’ in ‘words’. Some soulbonds communicate their bonders in the form of strong emotions, or in images, etc. If you’re feeling your connection most as an emotion when you’re upset, be on the lookout for other feelings you get during the day that seem to come from them.

The best way to strengthen your bond is to communicate, even if you hear nothing back. Talk mentally to your bond during the day, even if you don’t ‘hear’ anything back from them at first.  Ask questions, be friendly. You can also do this on paper like a writing exercise.