I’m pretty sure I’m fictionkin, but I tend to cycle through characters. Most of the time, everyone is background noise, living in my wacky cross-canon mind hotel, with one very dominant character who I start to emulate (usually without meaning to). I get teasing comments about how the character and I are clones. And then a year later, it’s a different character. It’s confusing! It’s ruined friendships because I “change” personality so often. Any advice?
Look into soulbonding, median plurality, and healthy multiplicity. There are people out there who have had the same experiences you have, and learn how to deal with them on a day to day basis. If you have trouble finding resources, shoot me another ask and I’ll pull up some of my old contacts.
Here’s something to start you off with. http://www.astraeasweb.net/plural/glossary.html
PS: Not saying you’re NOT fictiokin, but you may be fictionkin and multiple.
Let’s be real here. This isn’t multiplicity or being median. This is over-identifying with a character and then moving on to another one when you find someone more interesting. It’s playing pretend. And if you want to suggest that someone look into the possibility of being multiple, you might not want to link them to the most out there website there is (Y)
A reason I personally don’t think it’s multiplicity is that they’re changing characters. They don’t come back to anyone (at least from the sound of it). If it were a headmate—multiple or median—there would be some recurring identities, not just jumping from person to person.
If this has made you lose friends anon, I advice you to seek help. Not feeling like you have a personality of your own or constantly changing personalities could be indicative of something more serious.
During the time that I spent in the multiple community on livejournal circa 2006-2008, which was at the time, the largest community on the web for those experiencing multiplicity, Astrea’s web was THE source for vocab and such that people would send newbies to as it was the clearest and most comprehensive. Obviously, I haven’t kept up with all the new sites and multiple community lingo since I no longer consider myself a multiple, but I don’t see why this is not still a good source. If there are better sources, I hope multiple readers will inform me.
As for ‘playing pretend’ I don’t appreciate, and I doubt that the anon appreciates the flippancy with which you treat his/her/their personal experiences and identity
Nowhere does anon say they change when they find a character who is ‘more interesting’, and nowhere do they say they don’t come back. Rather, anon indicates that non-fronting characters share space in their ‘mind-hotel’ which is a common experience for multiples, esspeically medians, often known as an ‘inner space’ or’personal world’. A place where headmates interact when not fronting.
As for it making anon lose friends- plenty of things will make you lose friends, unchecked multiplicity one of them. I don’t see anything in anon’s message to indicate something ‘more serious’ and in fact that contradicts comepletely with your assertion that they are ‘playing pretend’.
