old tumblr postsAugust 15, 2015

Hey yo, I know that you may be getting crap for “gate keeping”, but I gotta say that I agree with you on these matters. You can’t ‘become’ an Otherkin to cope. It doesn’t work that way. It’s either you are one or you’re not. Good luck my friend

Thank you for this message right now. I really needed it. 🙂 People frustrate me endlessly– its good to know not everyone is against you.

old tumblr postsAugust 15, 2015

I just wanted to let you know that reading through all these questions and answers (and sending some myself) has really helped me realize whats going on with me. I hope everything goes well, i would be sad to see you go. Best of wishes to you.

Thank you so much. I’m so glad this blog could help.

old tumblr postsAugust 15, 2015

Thank you for running this blog. I went from thinking something was wrong with me, to thinking I might be fickin, then finding out that soulbonding was a thing and that was what was happening with me. Thank you so much. I immensely appreciate what you’ve brought to tumblr with you, the knowledge and experience with these things.

No, thank you for sending me this message right now. I really needed it. Appreciate it <3 Soulbonding is such a wonderful and fascinating experience,…

old tumblr postsAugust 15, 2015

As someone with diagnosed (and currently untreated) psychotic depression (undiagnosed with almost certainly lot of other stuff, too, tbh), I agree with you. I’m a Pagan and spiritual kin so when people automatically assume I’m copingkin cuz of their over-abundance in the kin tags and because I’m open about my mental illness I feel like it delegitimatizes both oppressed groups I’m a part of (Pagan and having a mental illness). I wish they’d call themselves something else like copingfriend or smth

thank you. I’m sorry people make assumptions about your kin idenity, that’s not cool. I really appreciate you taking the time to send me a…

old tumblr postsAugust 15, 2015

Fuck off and die u ableist gatekeeping shitbag

You’re right. I’m a shitty, horrible person who doesn’t deserve to speak his opinion, and I should go lay down and die. Hopefully when I…

old tumblr postsAugust 15, 2015

Why do you think there’s only one way to be kin? It’s not like any way is mutually exclusive.

Lesbians and heterosexual men both are attracted to women, but if heterosexual men called themselves lesbians, the actual lesbians would be rightfully pissed off.

old tumblr postsAugust 15, 2015

so i latched on to this character that i did not choose, i identify with them very strongly. sometimes i want to be their friend, sometimes i feel like i want to be them but sometimes i catch myself feeling like i am them? but i don’t believe i am them. would you say i am fiction hearted with them, something else, nothing?

I would say from your ask, and from what it sounds like your experience has been, there is no way to know. Its okay to…

old tumblr postsAugust 15, 2015

I have to be honest. I don’t like the phrase “system”. It makes us sound like machines.

As I understand it the term system is meant similarly to ‘star system’: A star system or stellar system is a small number of stars that…

old tumblr postsAugust 15, 2015

Can you talk more about non-fictive headmates, specifically how to distinguish them from fictives? Because I have a headmate who has refused to identify herself for the longest time. Also, is it possible to turn an imaginary friend from one’s childhood into a headmate?

A non-fictive headmate is pretty simple anon ^^ If you have a headmate and you don’t immediately know what canon/source they are from, then they…

old tumblr postsAugust 15, 2015

Not sure if you got this question yet, but have you heard of the fictional other coping mechanism? I kno peeps who were “copingkin” and after reading your posts on the subject, realized that the concept of a fictional other was a better coping mech. It’s basically like..I guess an internal RP? A fictional character you take on as a “significant other”. You KNOW it isn’t real, but when you’re lonely or depressed you kind of dwell on that idealized relationship? Hard to describe. Helped me a lot.

Anon, I have a few thoughts on this subject, so I hope you’ll pardon me if I ramble a bit. My first reaction is that…