hi I hope you don’t mind me asking and stuff but I am fiction kin but I am kin with a very popular character and I am very scared to come out with it sometimes cause what if people say I don’t even sound, look, or act like my kin even though I feel the same as my kin almost all the time but it makes me feel invalid and I am not sure what to do to help it

Being kin of a beloved character is tough, because it definitely makes you more visible and opens you up to more judgement. Please remember my advice for kin- when you interact with your canon’s fandom, don’t interact as kin, just as a fan. If you can’t look at fanfiction or fanart of your self without feeling controlling or insecure over it, try not to put yourself in that environment.

Also, I think all kin need to remember, none of us are playing a role. You are under no obligation to ‘preform’ your kinself’s ‘character’ for fans, for other kin from your canon, or for anyone. Being kin means that your kinself is a part of you, but it is not all of you. Your personality may be very different, and that’s not a good or a bad thing. Its just a thing. It doesn’t make you invalid. 

As for feeling invalid, I will be very honest.

I am much more suspicious of kin who feel the need to preform and act as much as possible like their kintype every moment, than I am of people who are more relaxed about the whole thing.