I still think that for many people, there’s this idea that something is gained by calling themselves kin. There’s not. You don’t “win” anything except more harassment on the internet whenever you talk about it.
Are there nice, pleasurable parts about being kin? Yes. Which literally everyone on earth can experience as living people, because everyone can experience pleasurable things related to their identity. You don’t need to call yourself kin to do that. The part I love most about being kin is the extra intimacy and depth it gives me with my partners. But you can have intimacy without being kin, it’ll just look different. Like everyone’s does.
And do not for a second let yourself believe that being other/fictionhearted, or having a synpath, or having soulbonds, is anything less. The feelings that brought you to that conclusion in the first place should tell you that much.
I think people really overvalue the ‘nice’ parts about being kin, and forget the really negative parts. I don’t understand why anyone would chose to have vivid flashbacks, guilt leftover from another life, miss people you’ve technically never met…
