you really shouldnt be making people feel bad for wanting validation, also do you understand that people would feel uncomfortable with doubles because of mental illness even when they accept the multiverse theory?
do you understand that people would feel uncomfortable with doubles because of mental illness even when they accept the multiverse theory?
I’ve said before, I don’t have a problem with people feeling uncomfortable with doubles. What I have a problem with is people who are uncomfortable with doubles publicly calling other people fakes.
You might say ‘oh but that just helps them feel comfortable and legitimate’.
By saying this you are disregarding the feelings of all of their doubles who are very likely to see these messages calling them fake. These ‘doubles’ may be equally mentally ill or low self-esteemed and have their mental health and sense of self extremely negatively impacted by posts like these.
You do not get a free pass to do harm to others just because it makes you feel good. Doing things for yourself without regard to how it harms others is one definition of what we call ‘evil’.
You are free to believe all other versions of your kintype are ‘fakes’ but going around calling other people fakes is nasty. Have a little compassion and politeness here. If you must, remind yourself that imitation is the sincerest form of flattery.
you really shouldn’t be making people feel bad for wanting validation
I assume you’re referring to my recent answer to someone who was asking what some symptoms of over-questioning kin stuff were, and the follow up question about how to deal with over questioning.
Neither of these answers is meant to make people feel bad for wanting validation. Everyone needs validation sometimes, hell, I consider myself an insecure person and I’m very conscious of my own (very high) need for validation.
That said, the need for constant validation, approval and reinforcement all the time is a negative symptom of low self-esteem, lack of confidence, and in some cases, of mental illnesses that require treatment and therapy to get past.
No one, especially not the mentally ill, should feel bad about their need for validation.
However, constant need for validation is something to be managed and struggled with, not something to be passively accepted or even praised. It is something that I personally struggle with constantly.
In my posts, I never made fun of or diminished people who need validation. I merely pointed out that a constant need for validation can be a sign that you are questioning yourself too much, and you need to relax and allow yourself to be. You can totally validate yourself, and give yourself permission to be. I believe in you. I give you permission.
