What do you think about over-questioning? Do the people who constantly worry about their legitimacy too hard on themselves, or are they denying that they aren’t said kintype?
There’s a reality to our situation as human beings in this world that there’s no such thing as knowing, without any shadow of a doubt, whether our experiences and believes derived from them are real.
As such, we should always have room for doubt, for more questions.
That being said, we also have to make our peace with not knowing.
Being preoccupied, if not consumed, by our own lack of knowing, by our own doubt, isn’t healthy long term.
Sometimes, we hesitate, we fear we’re wrong, we worry about our legitimacy, because we haven’t sought to answer our questions. If a question has been answered it becomes less pressing, even if there’s still room for doubt.
There are exceptions. Anxiety and self image related issues, that can make it really difficult to know when to drop it, when to stop, or can make it difficult to do so even when you know it’s time. If that’s the situation, then tending to those underlying issues will at the very least reduce the problem.
Over-questioning, being unable to live with the doubt, being unable (or unwilling) to seek out answers, isn’t healthy.
Usually, in such situations, it’s likely that people are being too hard on themselves, that they expect themselves to know what can not be known, prove what can not be proven, and beyond a shadow of a doubt.We have to learn to live with doubt. All of us.
